As most of you know that follow me or have followed me for a long time, mine and Rob’s 30th Wedding Anniversary was on the 16th and we were looking forward to celebrating. I received a phone call on the 12th from my sister in Kentucky that my baby brother Nic had passed away. Nic was just 36 years old and his death was completely unexpected and a shock for us all. So I went to Ky on the 13 until the 18th to be with family.
Some of you may remember me sharing a story with you about my brother 15 years ago. He was in a serious car wreck when he was just 21 and he broke his back. Nic had to have a rod and plate put in his back. He said the feeling he had in his legs were like novocaine wearing off, that tingling feeling. He had this feeling in his right leg and was able to move his leg eventually and in the left he had the feeling to the knee. Below the knee he had no feeling and had what they called a drop foot. He was able to walk with a cane and he would throw the bad foot. Nic got a sore on the good foot that they were never able to heal and after some time he ended up losing the good leg above the knee. When this happened he pretty much lived in wheel chair from that point on which was about three years or so. Nic also had other issues since his accident. He became addicted to prescription drugs and other things and my Mom pretty much locked him in the house away from outside contact and influences and pretty much saved his life. Nic found, or should I say became reconnected with a girl from his past almost 5 years ago. They built a life together and she is like one of my sisters. They loved each other and were discussing marriage and the possibilities of children some day. Being in the chair, Nic had put on weight and in fact was overweight and got very little exercise being in the chair all day every day and they believe it was an embolism that killed him.
Nic had such a happy spirit and loved life. He was always smiling showing off his huge dimples.. He was loved by so many people and will be greatly missed. It was hard to go to Ky and say goodbye to him, but nice to be there with all my family.
I was able to save a voicemail and a few text messages from Nic. I will miss hearing him call me Dawn-Dawn which he has always done.. Remember to let those in your life that are important to you know just how you feel….
Dawn Marie
So sorry for your loss. Sounds like he was a troubled man. Thank goodness your Mom did what she did. I’m glad you were able to, save his voicemail/text messages. Nic will be sharing his happy spirit and love of life in Heaven.
Thanks Gary.. It has been a tough few years. My Mom passed almost four years ago and my Dad went 7 months after her. We lost one of our sister in-laws in 2012 and now my little brother.. My family had been handed a lot.. But we can take peace in the fact that Nic is now with my parents. But it is still tough.